Are you like Oprah?

I was watching Barbara Walter’s 20 Most Fascinating People the other night (didn’t she say last year was her “last” year?). I had no plans to watch it but as I was flipping through the channels, I saw Oprah and wanted to hear what she had to say. What came out of her mouth made me a little sad but also caused me to reflect on my own journey.

When asked what is the one thing she wants to do before she leaves this earth, I expected her to say something like save all the children in Africa, or put a book in the hands of every kid in the U.S. Instead, what she said shook me to my core. Why? Because it is something I would have said, and have heard countless people say to me over the last 18 months. Oprah said she wants to make peace with her weight. What? Seriously?

So, let me get this straight. You can buy anything in the world, you have access to chefs, trainers, assistants, etc. and the one thing you want to do is not beat yourself up daily because you weigh more than what you feel is ideal. I TOTALLY get this! It broke my heart just a little. But also related to her on a human and woman to woman level. Oprah was suddenly a friend in my head.

I hate that so many of us are at a point in our life where thinking about our weight consumes our day. I often wonder how many times a day I adjust my waistband and think, “ugh, I hate my stomach” or I pass by a mirror and see how full my face is and wish my jawline was more defined. It is such a normal thing for me, I bet I couldn’t even count.

As January 1 approaches, so many people will make the resolution to lose weight and regain their health. I wonder if Oprah will say the same? She says she doesn’t make New Year’s resolutions, but deep down I bet she is praying for the answer to a size 8 pair of pants. Come on O, admit it! I secretly pray that this will be the year I hit my goal weight/size. I know that I have made HUGE strides over the last 18 months. I have dropped 3 pant sizes and my health is the best it has been in 15 years. But the road ahead seems to never end. And maybe that is a good thing. I don’t know that your journey to weight loss and health ever truly ends. Maybe I need to focus more on the road I am traveling instead of the destination. Maybe my resolution this year should be to stop beating myself up 100 times a day because of my waist band, what I see in the mirror or the fact that my jeans seem to wear out in the inner thigh area first. Don’t act like this doesn’t happen to you if you have curvy thighs!

The one thing I know for sure (am I allowed to say that without Oprah suing me?), is that if tomorrow were my last day on earth, I would not want my unfinished business to include worrying about my weight. So, I will put one foot in front of the other and continue on this journey. I will avoid the fast food restaurants along the way, and try to walk that road instead of driving (burns more calories). But above all, I will declare 2015 as a year of journeys not destinations. I think that is something we should all focus on a little more.

Here’s to the Journey.

trust your journey

If You Do One Thing This Year………..Lose the Mom Uniform!

{2 years ago, I wrote this blog post as a way to encourage women to love themselves a little more by getting out of their sweatpants and losing the ponytail. I have decided to relaunch this series as an ongoing segment on my blog. So I’m reposting the first segment of “Lose the Mom Uniform” as just a little reminder, in case you are back to putting your hair in a ponytail everyday – you know who you are!}


Lose the Mom Uniform

I’ve decided to throw out my Mommy Uniform! You know the one that someone was handing out at the hospital on the post-partum floor? Except, I don’t remember actually receiving a bag with a mommy uniform, it just kind of appeared in my closet.

Maybe they handed it to my husband while I was checking out. Yes, that must be it. And since nothing else in the closet fit when I got home, I just accepted it for what it was. A rather depressing glimpse into the beginning of my new image.

Before my children, I prided myself on wearing fabulous clothes, shoes, accessories. Other women would ask where I shopped and if I would teach them to accessorize. But some how in the midst of having 3 kids in 4 years (yes, you heard me right) I transformed into a sweatsuit wearing, ponytail sporting, non-accessorized person. I’m not even going to say “woman” because there is nothing womanly about how I was feeling. How the heck did I get here, and how am I am going to get out?

So I decided to lay down a few rules for myself. Should be easy, right? I did mention already that I have 3 kids under the age of 8? On second thought, maybe I will just buy a velour sweatsuit from Costco in every color they make.

No, no, no! I’m going to do this. Back to the rules. We will be assigning one rule in each segment of my blog posts. I want to give you a little time to adjust to each rule. Remember I’m on your side. I am one of you. My muffin top doesn’t look any better in low-rise jeans then any other mom. Who am I kidding, they don’t even make low-rise jeans in my size.  But I promise you, at the end of this series we will reclaim the right to feel and look fabulous together. It will be a transformation that is long overdue and greatly deserved.

Rules for Designing Our New Mommy Uniform

1. Ponytails are not allowed unless someone in the household is vomiting, the water has been shut off because I forgot to pay the bill (I’m not super woman after all!) or my 3 year old has decided to cut my hair while I am sleeping. If you have met my youngest, you know this is a very possible and probable scenario.
Take a minute and do something with your hair. I promise you will feel so much better!Last year I got a sassy new haircut and donated my hair to locks of love. I will tell you that I feel as cute as possible from 6:00 a.m. until 11:00 p.m. This is a first for me. If you are too afraid to cut your hair then buy or make a few trendy hair accessories. My favorite hair accessories are flowers worn off to the side and headbands with vintage buttons, brooches and feathers. If you MUST wear a ponytail, can you do me a favor and at least stick in a cute hair accessory so it looks like you “meant” to wear a ponytail?
The best way to wear hair accessories is to keep everything else you are wearing simple and chic. Let your accessory be your focal point.

If the accessories are scaring you, then just start with wearing your hair in any style besides a ponytail. Just one day! You can do it.